01 / Scores
Each signal is scored on its own.
Four statements contribute to each signal. Yes counts as one point, Maybe as half a point, and No as zero. The total is divided by four and shown as a percentage. For example, three Yes answers and one Maybe answer produce 88% after rounding. Two Yes answers and two No answers produce 50%.
These are percentages of your possible points in this test, not percentages of people like you. A higher number is not a goal. Leading and surrendering do not cancel each other out, so both can be high, low, or somewhere in between.
02 / The map
What the ten signals mean.
The result groups related signals into five broad areas. Read each pair separately. An interest in one direction does not imply interest in the other.
- Leading: setting direction and holding responsibility within agreed boundaries.
- Surrendering: letting a trusted person lead within clearly agreed boundaries.
- Giving intensity: creating negotiated physical sensation while staying attentive and controlled.
- Receiving intensity: experiencing negotiated physical intensity as part of trust and focus.
- Restraining: taking responsibility for limiting a partner's movement safely.
- Being restrained: enjoying stillness, restriction, or anticipation with someone trusted.
- Structure and protocol: using agreed rules, rituals, or roles to make a dynamic intentional.
- Service and care: expressing connection through service, caretaking, check-ins, and aftercare.
- Psychological and role play: exploring identity, language, and emotional tone inside an agreed role.
- Playful exploration: trying different dynamics without needing one fixed role.
03 / Example
Look for questions, not a label.
Imagine a result with Leading at 88%, Surrendering at 50%, and Service and care at 75%. It would be reasonable to ask what feels appealing about taking responsibility, whether care is part of that appeal, and in which situations following someone else's lead also sounds interesting. It would not prove that this person is a particular kind of partner.
This is an invented example, not a population average or a prediction. Your own strongest signals are starting points for reflection. The statements behind a score matter more than a familiar label attached to it.
04 / Limits
A result is not consent, skill, or compatibility.
The test does not diagnose an identity, measure experience, assess safety skills, or tell you what another person wants. A Yes answer means an idea appealed to you while taking the test. It is not agreement to do that activity with anyone.
Before any real activity, the people involved need to discuss the specific idea, boundaries, and a way to pause or stop. For more on consent, see Planned Parenthood's guide. For a fuller negotiation checklist, see the NCSF Negotiation Guide.